July 23, 2010
Welcoming A New Family Member
Are you expecting a new addition to your family? It can be a fun experience. If is your first child? Maybe it is the second or third. Having two or more children can be particularly challenging. It can also be rewarding.
Having children close together can be particularly challenging. It is hard to take care of a baby when pregnant. You may have enough to do already. However, there are things that you deal with and carry on. Children do not come with an owner's manual. You have to learn as you go.
You will find some benefits with multiple children. You know what to expect. However, your children may not be aware of their future. It is your responsibility to inform them of their new sibling. It is their family, too. They have a right to know and participate. Make sure that they know they are still important.
Try to include all of the kids in the preparations for the new arrival. You can do this while shopping. For example, get opinions on that new Graco Snugride infant car seat. It will make the kids feel important. They are going to need an ego boost. Soon, a new family member will be vying for attention.
Inform the kids of their new sibling as soon as you can. They have a right to know. They are as much a part of the family, as you are. It is not fair to keep important information from them.
What type of room situation will change with the new addition? This may be a big adjustment for a child. The more time they have, the better. If they make decisions in the process, it will make the transition smoother.
Maybe someone will have to share a room. They may be used to their own room. Let them make many of the decision. For example, let them change the color and scheme of the new room. Make sure they have their own storage lockers for privacy. Help it become their idea.
Try to find new ways to include the kids in decisions about the baby. You do not like surprises. It is like realizing that you are period pregnant. The children will not like surprises, either. This may make for a smoother family situation.
Final thoughts
A new family member is a joyous time. It can also be a time of stress and adjustments. Include the children in the process. This may help to make the transition smoother and happier. It may be a lot of fun for everyone.
Filed under Feng Shui by Wendy